Wednesday, May 02, 2012

Anomalies R Us: Hapa Haru (Spring)!


Hey, Hip Hapa Homeez. So much excitement is in the Spring air! Besides featuring documentary filmmaker Jessica Chen Drammeh as our monthly Hip Hapa Homeez, Your Hip Hapa also has a surprise for you. You can read it following our interview with the Anomaly director.

postcard design, Joey Silayan/title treatment, Gino Tadiar
Q: Jessica, how did your parents meet?

A: My parents, who are now both deceased, met in college. I'm second generation Taiwanese Chinese American and, at times growing up, I got off-the-cuff questions about whether my father met my Asian mother while serving in Korea. I would be surprised at the story people would try to concoct--first of all, because my mother was not Korean; second of all, because my father would have been too young to serve in the military!
    
Jessica, an anomaly at school
So the real story of how my parents met went something like this: my father's family (English-German-Irish-Native American) is from Pittsburgh. My mother's family is from Taiwan. My mother's aunt was the first of the family to come to the U.S. She was a professor at a school in West Virginia, where she settled down with another college professor. When my mother came over, she lived with my great-aunt and great-uncle for a time. She went to one of the local colleges, where my parents met on campus.


Q: What was it like growing up mixed?

A: Well, the era that I grew up in was pre-multiculturalism, pre-political correctness, etc. The particular county in West Virginia was (and still remains) very homogeneous--mostly native-born whites, very little ethnic diversity, and not very many families had international roots. I was certainly made to feel "different" from my earliest recollections of going to school. At the time, it was commonplace for kids to sing racially offensive songs, and to ostracize others for "looking different", whether that be eye shape, skin color, etc. As an adult, I can contextualize it, but at the time it was very alienating.

Jessica growing up in West Virginia
Q: Did you want to become a filmmaker first, or did you have a passion for mixed race stories and then decided to make movies about them?

A: One of the pivotal eras of my life was during high school, when I came to New York on a thespian group trip, and discovered a city rich with people coming and going from all around the world, unlike my little childhood town. So I ended up moving to New York to attend NYU as a film major. This combined my interests of photography, creative writing, theater, and music.
    
One particular semester, I took a documentary course and wanted to explore a topic I had first-hand experience with. I had picked up some of the early books about multiracial identity and suddenly it struck me as a subject ripe for exploration. I did some very preliminary work on mixed race personal stories back then, but would need to return to it later. So, after graduating from film school and finishing a thesis film, I came back to Anomaly (www.anomalythefilm.com) with an expanded purpose. I also became involved in the post-Census 2000 network of mixed race community organizations, conferences, panels and educational events geared towards building awareness of issues pertinent to mixed race people and communities.

Q: As the recipient of many film awards, which do you think is the most important for Anomaly

Anomaly interviewee Pete Shungu as a child with his family
A: One of the awards that arrived during a pivotal early moment was the James T. Yee Mentorship Award from the Center for Asian American Media. (http://caamedia.org/filmmaker-resources/caam-fellows-2012/) Through the James Yee Award, I was connected to filmmaker Nicole Atkinson Roach, who collaborated with the late Marlon Riggs on groundbreaking documentaries like Black Is, Black Ain't (http://newsreel.org/video/BLACK-IS-BLACK-AINT), which explored blackness through multiple lenses in an amazingly innovative style. I had been looking at some identity films like Black Is, Black Ain't, and Nicole became a wonderful mentor in developing Anomaly's focus, guidance in applying to grantmakers and producing a trailer. So, Nicole and the mentorship helped very early on, when a project needs to gain traction!

Q: Your film seems so thorough and not just the usual angst about "What Am I?" Did you first develop a script, or was it your interviewees that made it less emotional and more intellectual?

A: While making the film, we developed an “interactive” process of sorts, where we would shoot, edit, and then have work-in-progress screenings for feedback. We'd repeat this process over several stages. Many filmmakers don't like to do this because it risks changing the vision of the film too early!

Anomaly interviewee Gabriella Callender and biological mother, Winnie McDonald
photo, Ku-Ling Siegel
We wanted community participation, in fact. So from a 6-minute trailer, I shot more footage, developed an outline, produced a 13-minute work in progress, shot more footage, revised the outline. We did this over a few years! We shot over 100 hours of footage with more than a dozen participants. During this process, we were desperately raising funds to continue, and there hadn't been established interest in documentaries about mixed race stories. Also, at the same time, characters' lives were unfolding, and some moments we had to wait for to get on camera. For example, you can't script when in a real person's life she will reunite with her biological mother. Developing a rapport with the participants was fundamental, because we wanted to get a real look at their personal lives. Eventually, we ended up with an 80-minute assembly/rough cut, which ultimately got trimmed to the 47-minute fine cut. As the saying goes, documentaries are made in the editing room. We also had the insight of veteran filmmaker/professor Sam Pollard (http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0689498/), who became a consulting editor to the project.
Anomaly interviewee Michelle Myers and daughter Myong (left)
photo, Tyrone McCloud
Q: Where can we see Anomaly?

A: For folks in the New York City area, our next screening is May 12 in Brooklyn. http://anomalythefilm.com/?p=745 It’s being presented by Filmwax (filmwax.com), singer-songwriter Gabriella Callender will be performing live, and it's co-sponsored by Loving Day (http://www.lovingday.org). It should be a festive community homecoming after being on the film festival circuit. Anomaly will also be screening at UC Davis on May 9. In the fall, it should be available for educational purchase. Information will be posted on our website at http://anomalythefilm.com. We also have a clip gallery online at YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/anomalyJCD

Q. What's your next project?

A: There's a running joke amongst many documentary filmmakers that long-form docs take 10 years to finish, so at 9 years in the making Anomaly is about average. Recently, I went to a colleague's screening at the Tribeca Film Festival, and her film took more than 15 years to complete. Wouldn't it be fun to finish a short doc in 3 months? So, some of the ideas I'm developing next may focus on an intended short format, and outlets such as mobile devices.

Haruo McKinley all grown up
You go, Jessica! What an incredible story and speaking of, here’s another. 

Around the time I first started this blog in 2008, I wrote about a boy named Haruo McKinley whom I’d had a crush on many decades ago in the fifth grade. In fact, half the girls in my class liked him, too. The reason I remember Haruo so vividly is because my mother gave me a diary that year and I filled it with my observations about him. Over the years, I would re-read my diary and wonder what ever happened to the boy whose name means Spring. 


Haruo as a 5th grader

Not long after my blog post, a man wrote me that he’d been in the Army with Haruo, but had not heard from him in years. Well, just yesterday Haruo’s ex-wife, Pamela Lajeane Scott, or PJ, emailed me! After marrying and having three children with Haruo, whom she calls “Mac”, presumably for McKinley, PJ and he divorced. Haruo, she says, left Ft. Lewis where I had been at school with him to move with his family to Ft. Polk Louisiana where she met him. After winning a baseball scholarship, Haruo went to Northwestern University and was drafted. Consequently, he enjoyed a highly decorated military career serving around the world. Haruo also played drums in a band called—are you ready for it?--The Mixed Emotions.

Here’s more from PJ:

Q: PJ, how did you discover I was looking for Haruo?

A: I was checking Google for "Haruo McKinley" when I found your website. I found your article on Watermelon Sushi World and was totally excited to read about Haruo in the fifth grade. Since he and I met in the eighth grade, you had a picture of him that I did not. That in itself was amazing as his late mother left me all the pictures she had when Haruo was young.

When “Mac” entered my world via eighth grade, he was quiet, resolved and very interesting. I swore he would be my boyfriend.  One day he was getting a drink of water at the water fountain and I slapped him on the back and said, "Hey, new guy!" Little did I know, he chipped his tooth on the water fountain and did he ever let me know that he didn't think that was cool. Cool or not, that broke the ice and from then on out until 1985, we were inseparable.

Haruo's mom, Kura Otaka McKinley
Q: What was it like for Haruo growing up mixed?

A: “Mac” had some problems adapting. He spoke broken English and I helped him by correcting him. He always called me “bossy”. By graduation, he had mastered the English language and became one of the most popular kids at school. His friends loved him and lovingly called him the "Salem Kid" as he was a smoker as early as ninth grade. As far as his Japanese cultural background, I think it helped him as most people were interested in hearing stories about Japan and his martial arts ability. Needless to say, he was not bullied because they had seen him in action several times when other boys asked me out and he let all my future dates know that I was his girl. That always thrilled me.

Q: Since you're also biracial, was being mixed a part of your attraction to each other? Did it help your relationship?

A: Haruo’s father is Irish American (still living in California) and came to the U.S. when his parents left Ireland in the early 1900's. He lived in New York for most of his life until he left home for the military. In the early 1940's, he was stationed in Korea and participated in the Korean War. He was on R&R in Kawasaki Japan when he met Kura Otaka (Mac’s mom) and from there Mac was born and, later, his little brother in Germany.

PJ
As far as me being French and Choctaw Indian, I was born and raised in Louisiana where most of the population is Cajun, Creole, Mulatto or Caucasian, so it was never an issue with me.

“Mac” seemed to like that I was also a little different. We meshed and I saw our relationship as a great opportunity to know about another culture. His mother taught me many things, including how to make and love Japanese food--especially sushi and sukiyaki, my fave.

Thank you, PJ! Since it’s Spring, Hip Hapa Homeez, let’s talk about the name Yayoi. Everyone speaking Japanese assumes I was born in March, which most Yayoi’s are. But, my mother is so rebellious she went ahead and named me Yayoi in spite of my May birth. Try explaining that to Japanese nationals.

 Remember to buy a Hapa*Teez t-shirt to support our Watermelon Sushi film. And, please like our Watermelon Sushi fan page, our Hapa*Teez fan page, and join our Hip Hapa Homeez group page on Facebook for interactive discussions about being an anomaly--and more. We’re also on twitter, Google+, Pinterest, etc. Just look for "watermelonsushi" anywhere you're online, and you’ll find us.

And, finally, HAPA Haru (Spring) to you all!


Your Hip Hapa,
Yayoi

Wednesday, April 04, 2012

Messy And Beautiful Adventures From Jersey Shores To Espana

Aloha, Hip Hapa Homeez! 

Big ups, big hugs and big fat smooches to you all. Your Hip Hapa appreciates your continued purchases of Hapa*Teez t-shirts. Every penny of profit goes to support our Watermelon Sushi film, and earns you a rear crawl credit. Be sure we have the correct spelling of your name for when the film is produced and released. If you’ve already bought a Hapa*Teez, drop us a line at hapateez@me.com And, if you have a pix of yourself in one, please share.

Rob Lee shares Hapawood with you!
Your continued participation in our Hip Hapa Homeez group on Facebook indicates that the topics of being mixed-race, multi-cultural, multi-ethnic, interracially involved, transracially adopted, and/or crossing cultures continues to be important ones. Keep up the comments, discussions and posts of relevant subjects!

Watermelon Sushi and Hapa*Teez also have Facebook fan pages, and there’s a myCuz @Oprah campaign on Twitter. Follow us at watermelonsushi, read about us on HUB, and please sign the twitition. I hear my cousin Oprah is looking for OWN projects so let’s help her out.


This month’s featured Hip Hapa Homee is the hilarious and irreverent Ali Berlinksi, author of A Beautiful Mess. Chapter one is titled You’re Not White, and you can read it here:


Here are more of Ali’s links and, below them, a Q&A:



Ali in Paris
Q: You’ve had one heck of a mixed family experience. Please divulge some details.
A: In addition to being biracial, I’m also bicoastal. My birth mother is a Filipina immigrant raised in San Francisco, ergo she's wasn't your typical immigrant Filipino parent. As for my father, he's from Jersey. His other ethnicities include Polish, German and Welsh. I was born in Jersey, but moved to Northern California when I was 9 with my birth mother, Puerto Rican stepfather and two younger siblings, who are Puerto Rican-Filipino. Growing up, I visited Jersey twice a year to see my father and two older brothers, who are from my father's first marriage and half-Italian. Though I’m not ethnically Italian or Puerto Rican, I very much relate to the cultures. (See family diagram, below.)


Ali's Family Tree
Q: Were you always funny? 
A: This question is the best compliment anyone has ever given me! Um, no. I don't consider myself funny but rather, entertaining. If anything, I've always been eccentric and a bit awkward, which happens to be in fashion these days as far as comedy is concerned. Consider me your hot, female, ethnic Michael Cera. I don't try to be funny. If I make people laugh then great, but when this humor trend eventually changes, and it will, I'll continue being my zany self.  
Ali before she left NYC
Q: You currently live in Spain. I'm guessing being half Filipina has something to do with it, right?
A: Three words: chorizo, wine and siesta. This place is a foodie's paradise. Before moving abroad, I applied to teaching programs all over the world. I had to get the hell out of NYC. My life there was too comfortable and I desperately needed a change. Spain was my first choice. For one, they really have their priorities straight--work to live and not live to work as we tend to do in the U.S. They also have amazing coffee, which if I were Popeye would be my spinach. I'm sure my Filipino "Puerto Rican" roots did play a role. For, while the culture is different from my own, it's still very familiar. Still, the most important thing to me was that I radically change my life. Moving abroad seemed to be a fun way to do that.


Q: What are the biggest differences in identifying as a multi-cultural person in Spain versus presenting yourself like that in the U.S.?
A: Whenever you're considered a "not", it reinforces whatever qualities make you a "not". In the U.S., I'm considered "Not White" and so I align myself with minorities even though many minorities would consider me "whitewashed". Even the “nots” have “nots”.
The idea of a biracial person doesn't exist in Spain. They're a very homogeneous insulated society. Moreover, the Spanish don't tend to think in terms of race, but culture. To them, I'm just different, period. Thus, here I'm "Not Spanish" which reinforces my American identity. Subsequently, I crave peanut butter more than I ever did when I was in the states. By no means are the Spanish egalitarians; rather, they have a completely different understanding and relationship with these ideas.
Ali goes "all Waiting to Exhale"...
Q: What inspired you to write A Beautiful Mess?
A: This book has been a dream of mine since forever. In a way, I've always understood my life to be different. After going through some really tough breakups and realizations, I decided to take some time and reboot. Writing has always been my sanity, and writing this book provided me with a productive way to express some really tough emotions. Although the book is deeply personal, the issues I discuss are very relatable: divorced single-parents, sibling rivalry, racial identity, heartache, cancer, death of a loved one, career struggles, gay, "handicapped" and bipolar family members, and so on. Clearly, my life can be ridiculous, which is why I think it’s so important to laugh. 
Right now, the book is available exclusively through pubslush.com. There, you can read a chapter and support my book for as little as $10. I need to have 1000 people pre-order it in the next 60 days in order to get published. I need as much help spreading the word so tell everyone you know--and don’t know, for that matter! When I reach this goal I'm published just like any other author. Plus, those who pre-order can list themselves as an original discoverer of my book. It's a company I'm really passionate about because not only does it help me get published, but it also helps promote literacy in third world countries. For every book you buy, a book is donated to the featured charity. Tell everyone you know!
Q: Some of the encounters you describe in your essays are not vastly different from what most mixed-race people experience as far as being constantly questioned and validated. Are you writing to assure the multicultural community, or is it more for informing the non-mixed population about our issues?
A: My essays are intended for everyone and the only message I hope to convey is that everything in life is a choice. Aside from that, I'd be flattered if a person reads an essay and has an “ah-ha” moment, thereby motivating questions and eventually, a dialogue. But then, you can never tell what people are going to take from your work. 
Q: What's next? Another book, films, TV appearances? 
A: After this book gets published, I plan to do lots of publicity, which will probably include TV appearances, book talks and tours this summer. It’s exciting and yet daunting. Whenever you put yourself out there, you risk getting hurt. But I stand by my book and am excited to share it. And, I’m writing a second book that will focus on my life now that I've moved to Spain.

Bravo! Ole muy bien, Ali, and mucho gracias.







So far, Hip Hapa Homeez, 2012 has been beyond busy for us. Mad props to each one of you for coming along on this journey towards One World. Mahalo nui loa to you who know who you are. Until next month, when we present another Hip Hapa Homee, I am

Your Hip Hapa,


Yayoi

Wednesday, March 07, 2012

On A Global Mission With Cross-Cultural Musician, The Tropicosmician


Hey, Hip Hapa Homeez! Welcome back to our Watermelon Sushi World.

Your Hip Hapa thanks you for supporting Hapa*Teez t-shirts. Remember, every single purchase earns a rear crawl credit, meaning your name will roll at the end of the Watermelon Sushi film. If you’ve already bought a t-shirt, drop us a line at hapateez@me.com to confirm the correct spelling of your name. We’d also like to see you wearing your Hapa*Teez, so send us a photo and we’ll post it at our Watermelon Sushi and Hapa*Teez fan pages on Facebook. You can also ‘like’ our fan pages, and request membership in our Hip Hapa Homeez group where we discuss the multiethnic, multiracial, interracially involved and transracially adopted agendas. Also, our myCuz @Oprah campaign continues to run on Twitter so follow us there, read about us on HUB, and sign the twitition.

TheTropicosmician in his Hapa Nation t-shirt
This month’s featured Hip Hapa Homee is Ejiroghene Bryan “Jiro” Efevberha aka TheTropicosmician, a talented young musician and cross-cultural ambassador. Here’s his story:

Q: What was your upbringing like?

A: I was born in Warri, a small oil city located in the southern region of Nigeria. I’m the youngest of nine siblings of a middle-class family—which in Nigeria is similar to that in America. Specifically speaking, it means the parents can afford the cost of education for their children from elementary school until completion of University, a family that can afford beyond the basic standards of living. Hence, I wasn't born into a family that was lacking, but neither was I born into a rich one.

However, in my family, education was a right. But this cannot be said about many families since the size of the middle-class in Nigeria is relatively smaller than in the U.S. Growing up, in elementary school, we children were protected to and from school and transported in school buses. But I noticed a stark difference in the U.S. where the school bus system was a standard, unlike in Nigeria where children went to school through various means. It was more popular back home for parents to drive their children to school, or use taxicabs. But again, just like it is here, it depends on the economic class of the family. To throw more light onto this, the school bus system I had the privilege of enjoying was provided by a foreign company my dad worked for at the time.

TheTropicosmician as Outkast
Q: How difficult was it adjusting to life in America?

A: I came here in January of 2005 and met the cold winter of Philadelphia. Coming from a tropical country, it was my first time experiencing cold of a high magnitude. But I think I adjusted pretty well in terms of the weather. However, I found it difficult adjusting culturally--particularly in greetings. In Nigeria, to say ‘good morning’, ‘good afternoon’ and ‘good evening’ to strangers was the norm. But here, you just get a nod from those who are polite enough to acknowledge your presence. Others just say ‘hi’ or ‘hello’. Those are subtle differences because I later learned that people also use the aforementioned form of greetings here.

And, people dress rather casually here. I noticed that students tried to be impressive in their dress, but I met American students who wore their ‘sleep clothes’, or they would wear almost anything they could wear elsewhere. Back in Nigeria, every occasion had a form of dressing or standard of acceptability. This is true to some extent here, although not in higher learning institutions.

I also noticed a big difference in the way younger people treated their elders here. They spoke and acted like they were their age mates or any friend. That was not the case back in Nigeria. Elders were accorded respect. I’m only generalizing here, or speaking about the standard culture.

Abena
Q: When did you first play music?

A: I think of playing music in two different terms--virtual playing and actual playing. Hence, I have two answers. Virtually, I have been playing as early as age seven, or perhaps earlier. I always had an ear for music as early as I can remember, and I was always composing and humming something. In the actual sense, I started playing towards the later part of 2005. A friend of mine had a home recording studio and gave me music production software. So, I started teaching myself how to use it, creating the songs I had written before and bringing to life all my imaginings in sounds. From then on, I could not stop because I already had lots of songs in my archives. It seemed like perfect timing because, back in Nigeria, I did not have that access or, rather, the awareness of making music on a computer.

TheTropicosmician as Michael Jackson
Q: What inspires you to write a certain song?

A: Interesting question! People inspire me--people I interact with day to day. I have a thing for writing songs with people's actual names, especially when they have touched me in some way. I think I have about four songs with actual people's names as the title. Besides people, my experiences, my struggles, my various moments and emotions bring out the art of writing in me. I write while walking in the streets. I have this thing with motion. Well, it’s a family thing. In our family, we always find ourselves walking in circular motions while in the sitting area of our home. We would move in circles while conversing. When visitors came around, they would just watch us in amazement. They thought it was kind of strange. The reason I mentioned that is that I use this motion thing as well in my music. Whenever I'm moving, it means I'm thinking and, in thinking, I'm inspired--melodies just start coming. I remember writing this song “Go the Height”. I saw the inscription on a passerby's shirt while I walked past him. So you see, I’m also inspired by strangers in my environment. I’m inspired by the weather as well. I wrote “It's Getting Crazy Here” at a time when there were strong winds blowing. I started thinking about our climate and how things have changed a lot. That's just another example of how I get inspired. Sometimes, I just form a new song from the beats of another song that I did. “I See You” is an example of a derivation song. I write about my relationships with girls. Even in a relationship I could somewhat see the future and I could just write a break-up song. (My song “Let Go” is an example.) So, this thing really comes to me in different ways. Need I mention even while I'm half asleep, literally speaking? And also, most importantly, other renowned musicians I admire, they inspire me a lot, too. Michael Jackson, Sade, R. Kelly, Shaggy, Sean Paul and a lot of others, including rock artists like Nirvana. My taste for music is quite broad.

Q: How does your music cross cultures?

A: As a producer, my sounds are reflective of my cultural environment and that influences my creativity. This is why today you can find different elements of music in what I do. I love to work with Arabian strings, African percussions, tango elements, together with the 808 drum. I like to bring them together, and they all work together. I keep a worldview in the process of making music because these are really my experiences, learning about different countries, their cultures and their music. Listening to world radio. For example, I did a song about racial profiling in the black versus Hispanic communities, although it does not really carry that strong message, but a rather subtle one with a romantic concept. If I weren’t here in America, I wouldn’t have thought of something like that. So my indirect or direct surroundings influence the kind of music I make. I say indirect to mean my perceived experience of another country, although I’m not present there, could affect my style as well.

Q: Any future plans?

A: My future plans come in phases, because I like to think in short-term, mid-term and long-term plans. But for the purpose of this interview, I will focus on the short-term. I have several collaborations lined up. I love to collaborate because other artists bring out the best in me or, let me say, they take me to whole new levels of inspiration. I am looking to cross-promote and to build together. I think we have been too self-centered. We should let loose a little bit and appreciate that we are all talented and that we can make some good progress if we engage in healthy competition. Some Nigerian acts have shown interest in collaborating with me. And, I must say here that the music business back in my home country is huge. So, I think this is a great thing. I’m currently working on an EP of love songs to be titled “I Wanna Love You More” which is the title track. I’m also looking to revive the duo “Lion's Den” and making it a group, possibly adding a female singer. There is so much unfinished work that I would like to go back to, as well as new directions I’ll take regarding the styles of music I want to explore.

Thank you, Ejiro The Tropicosmician! Connect with Ejiro here: 


Here’s a shout-out to publisher Dorothelia Barnett and writer Natasha J. McEachin at Beautifully Inspired Women magazine for the wonderful profile of Your Hip Hapa and Watermelon Sushi last month. http://www.biwmagazine.com/

Hey, Hip Hapa Homeez, Your Hip Hapa knows you readers are a giving group, so please take a moment to check out this documentary about finding multiethnic bone marrow and cord blood donors. http://web.me.com/jeffchibastearns/Mixed_Match/Welcome.html

‘til we meet again, I am

Your Hip Hapa,
Yayoi

Wednesday, February 01, 2012

Transracial Adoption: Crossing Color Lines By Choice


Gung Hay Fat Choy, Hip Hapa Homeez! Here’s to a Happy New Year of the Water Dragon for you, your family, your folks and friends.

Thanks so much for your continuing support. Your Hip Hapa really appreciates your Hapa*Teez t-shirt purchases as a way to finance our Watermelon Sushi film and earn you a rear crawl credit. If you’re on Facebook, please ‘like’ our Watermelon Sushi film fan page, our Hapa*Teez t-shirt fan page and request membership in our Hip Hapa Homeez group where we post and discuss issues of interest to multiethnic, multiracial, interracially involved and transracially adopted people. We’re also still running our myCuz @Oprah campaign on Twitter. Here's the  HUB page and the twitition for you to sign.

Our guest this week is Michelle M. Hughes, an attorney specializing in transracial adoptions.

The Hughes Family
Q: Michelle, tell us about your own family.

A: My parents met in Chicago and married in 1965, pre-Loving decision. They have been married for 47 years as of this January. My mother is a Caucasian farm girl from Minnesota and my father is a black man raised during Jim Crow in Houston Texas. My parents raised me and my siblings in the Chicago suburbs. I usually racially identify as biracial or biracial-black and white. I ethnically identify as African-American, Norwegian and German. Here’s a link to an article my mother’s featured in.


Q: You're an attorney, author, mentor, speaker and more on behalf of transracial adoptees. What makes you so passionate about this kind of adoption?

A: Years ago, I started organizing social events for biracial adults because I was acutely aware that many multiracial adults had never been in a setting with all multiracials. The group has morphed into “Biracials and Friends” from an exclusively biracial group. We continue to have parties, BBQs and festival outings in Chicago. At every event, I noticed about 40% of the biracial participants were transracial adoptees. Many of these biracial transracial adoptees became my friends, although some were friends prior to the group. In addition, my law career was at the same time increasingly focusing on adoption law. Thus, the multiracial movement and adoption came together for me, and the need for education became increasingly apparent.

Attorney Michelle M. Hughes
I started Bridge Communications, Inc. www.bridgecommunications.org with Pamela Cook-Hergott and, later, Antoinette Dubois. We all had multiracial family experiences and adoption knowledge from varying viewpoints, and we felt we could help the next generation of parents and social workers with transracial adoption. I’ve always been very pro-multiracial family, but I realized talking to many transracial adoptees that their parents were not always prepared with the tools to raise children with positive self, racial and family identities. Bridge Communications set out to help rectify that failure and make sure people had the tools to do a better job with the next generation of transracial adoptees.

Q: Angelina Jolie, Sandra Bullock, Madonna, Tom Cruise, Steven Spielberg, Michele Pfeiffer, Kathryn Heigl. Do you think celebrities adopting transracially are helping or hurting the cause?

A: Celebrities are probably both helping and hurting. It’s always hard to know exactly because we don’t truly know what’s going on in celebrities’ lives or their children’s, but only what’s published. Furthermore, their lives differ from ours because of money and fame. Celebrities adopting across racial lines makes it seem more “normal” to many people to adopt across racial lines. Many people do take their cues from celebrities, rightly or wrongly. But to my knowledge, no celebrity has become vocal on being a multiracial family and the uniqueness, the challenges, the responsibilities and the joys that come with being a multiracial family via adoption. Many celebrities are not open about their fertility challenges either.

I remember reading an article years ago when Michele Pfeiffer spoke of her biracial daughter, who was just shy of five-years old at the time. Michelle was asked about race and her daughter, and she responded that her daughter would have to deal with it when she got older. I thought, ‘This child is dealing with it now and you, as her parent, have a responsibility to help guide her through being a biracial transracial adoptee in this race- conscious world starting when you adopted her.’ It’s not for her daughter to “figure out” later by herself when she gets older. What actually happened in her family I have no idea, but it seems a lot of celebrities in public ignore the race issue when they adopt across racial lines. However, while money and fame doesn’t alleviate racism, it probably softens the amount of racism an individual faces and reduces the impact of institutional racism.

a transracially adoptive family
Q: What’s the most important thing a potential adoptive parent needs to know about raising a child of another culture, ethnicity or race?

A: The most important thing for transracial adoptive parents to know is we still live in a race-conscious society, and it is your responsibility as a parent to help your child navigate race and racism and help them build a positive self, racial and family identity. And if a parent is unwilling to do this, they should not be adopting across racial lines. And, yes, it’s okay to reach out for help, build support networks and get educated.

Also important to know is that most kids (and people) do not always want to be the “unique” one. Sometimes it’s nice to be around others like yourself. Thus, it’s important for transracial adoptive parents to find other families of color (adults of the race of their child), other adoptive families and other transracial adoptive families to be friends with their family. It’s important to have all three types of friendships. For some families, it may be hard to reach outside their comfort zones and find families like their own--adoptive and families with adults the race of their child, but it’s usually invaluable to the child and the parents. And it’s important that the whole family makes these friendships, not just the adopted child. Otherwise, the message to the child is, “Mommy and daddy do not play with people who look like you. But we love you--just not anyone else that looks like you.” There are plenty of resources to make those connections including support and social groups, adoptive family camps, multiracial organizations, online groups and even cruises.

Q: You mentioned that only biracial children are placed in adoption for racial reasons. Please elaborate.

A: Race may play a role in adoption for biracial adoptees in a way it does not for monoracial adopted children. Biracial children are the only children placed for racial reasons. Of course, not every biracial child is placed for racial reasons. Most are placed for the same reasons any birth mother (or father) who voluntarily places a child for adoption--reasons specific for that birth mother. Of course, that reason or reasons varies from parent to parent. However, some biological parents of biracial children place simply because they do not feel they can raise a mixed-race child or they are afraid to come home to their parents with a mixed-race child. In some international adoptions, biracial children traditionally were seen as “tainted” in many of the extremely traditional homogenous societies.

I know many adult biracial adoptees, upon a reunion with their birth family, discovered their white birth mom was told not to bring that “mixed breed” home. However, it’s not only in the past. It still happens that some birth moms place biracial children based on the child’s race. A white mom never places her child because the child is white. Nor does a black woman place her child because the child is black. But women do place their children because they are biracial. I also know biracial adoptees, separated from their white birth siblings, who were adopted separately because of race.

Michelle M. Hughes with Bridge Communications, Inc.
Q: What motivated you to co-found Bridge Communications, Inc.?

A: I was motivated because I knew some people needed help in navigating a multiracial family in a race-conscious society. I met transracial adoptees whose parents did an excellent job in the navigation, but I also met too many whose parents had screwed it up so royally that their children were really struggling in their identity and not loving themselves. I was fortunate to always have a degree of multiracial experience in my life, and I thought I could help with parents adopting transracially. 

Q: Do you envision a time when interracial families, whether through adoption or not, will be the norm?

A: I envision a time, in certain parts of the country, that multiracial families, while not the “norm”, will be seen as “normal”. However, I don’t expect everybody to be accepting and see multiracial families, through adoption or not, as the normal in my lifetime.

Thanks, Michelle! Here are some additional facts and figures provided by Michelle:

1. Estimates now are 40 % of adoptions or more are transracial. That is a lot of multiracial families. For international adoptions by Americans, I would estimate the number is closer to 75% or more for transracial adoptions.

2. Interracial couples, as well as black couples, generally have a shorter wait time and are more in demand in private and/or private agency adoption. While discriminated in other areas of life, couples of color are desired by agencies as there are not enough for the babies being born and placed. Most adoption statistics of wait time and fees for services in the media applies to “healthy white children”, not children of color, especially African-American children. While race should maybe not be a discussion in adoption, it is as it is in all aspects of American life.

3. The majority of adoptions in the United States are domestic, not international.

4. Increasingly, more domestic adoptions (some estimate 60% or more) are “open” to some degree. Thus, in transracial adoption, families must be able to communicate across racial lines for their child to have positive relationships with both their adoptive and biological family. Additionally, international adoptions are also starting to “open”.

5. As international adoption continues to decrease, more families are considering transracial domestic adoption, and biracial children are becoming increasingly in demand by Caucasian families.

6. Race and fees for adoption services are intertwined in adoption (outside of the child welfare system). Thus, the lighter, brighter and whiter, the more expensive the adoption services in many agencies, even in 2012.

7. In the child welfare system, race is one factor that determines the length of time a child spends in foster care with African-American children staying the longest:


8. While a transracial adoptee with only Caucasian parents has a different experience than biracial children (from an interracial union), they do have an overlap experience of growing up in a multiracial family. (For example, the stares from strangers.)

9.  Race, ethnicity, color, nationality and culture are all different things!

10. We lack a good language to discuss the complexities of “family” in adoption. For example, it’s becoming quite controversial in how to refer to a birth mother. Birth mother, expectant mother, biological mother, first mother, tummy mommy, by first name, mommy (first name), etc.

11. Transracial adoption, because it is so obvious an “adoption” due to its visual nature, has led the way in rethinking the secrecy of adoption of years past. Generally, it’s impossible to keep a transracial adoption secret. And, if it’s not secret, then a host of questions come up that hopefully leads to better adoption practice in all adoptions.

12. Assisted Reproductive Technology (ART) including egg, sperm and embryo donation needs to learn from years of adoption education.

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